by Suzanne Devereux –
You might be in a Commitment Conflict.
Let’s take a common scenario: relationships.
You now have two commitments battling each other: The commitment to create a fantastic relationship, and the commitment to prove that such a relationship doesn’t exist. It’s said that humans would often rather be right than be happy. If you make efforts to create a new relationship, but it doesn’t work out, you’ve proven to yourself that, once again, you were right. In this case, you’re more committed to the belief that fantastic relationships aren’t possible for you.
So be more committed to the change you seek than to the status quo:
1. Watch your thoughts! When a thought that sounds anything like your old, limiting belief surfaces, deal with it right then and there.
2. Be ready with Replacement Thoughts. Write your new, empowering beliefs on, yes, post-it notes and notecards; have these reminders around you and use them. They are there to replace the old thoughts whenever they surface.
3. Take steps towards the change you want to make. Brainstorm ways in which, in the example used, you can prove to yourself that fantastic relationships exist and that you’re next in line for one. Search out validation that your new ideas are true. Make your new ideas true.
4. Make constant, steady movement towards that which you want, and leave the rest behind. Our daily lives are made up of a series of decisions made moment by moment. Pause and consider even the tiniest decision you’re about to make; could one of the choices support you in the change you’re seeking to make? Be committed to making those changes. You may just turn out to be right.