9 Simple Steps to Live in the "NOW"



by Zeenat Merchant Syal –

Learning to be in the NOW is at the heart of all spiritual practice and the secret of enlightenment. However, getting the mind to this moment is not the easiest thing in the world. Our monkey mind often plays funny tricks.

“Life is now,” says Eckhart Tolle, author of the bestseller ‘The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.’ The key to unlocking one’s innate creative potential is to step out of tensions from the past and expectations about the future and being fully in the present moment. Eckhart Tolle was under 30 years of age, fed up with living when he chanced upon this truth which forms the core of his teachings.

A self-made millionaire, Shannon Duncan was under 30 when disenchanted with his riches and success, he embarked upon a similar set of revelations which led him to write ’Present Moment Awareness: A Simple, Step-by-Step Guide to Living in the Now.’

The wisdom these New Age teachers bring to us isn’t exactly new. New age, or call it simply timeless – cultivating present moment awareness is a technique that could help you realize your own highest potential.


SIMPLE STEPS TO LIVE IN THE ‘NOW’


1st: Mindset recognition

Most of us tend to be either wallow-ers or wait-ers. The wallow-ers carry into each moment baggage from the past. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness and non-forgiveness typify the wallow-er mindset.

The wait-er mindset is typical of those who are so busy getting to the future – that perfect job, house, or relationship – that the present is reduced to a mere means of getting there. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress and worry go with living too much in the future. Recognizing which side one tends towards is an important first step.

2nd: Negative Psychological Time vs. Clock Time

Distinguishing between negative psychological time and clock time is an important second step.

Clock time enhances our productivity and effectiveness – enabling us to plan things, keep appointments, schedule work. For instance, learning from a past mistake and not repeating it is using clock time, but dwelling upon it in guilt and regret is to be in negative psychological time. Similarly, setting a goal and working towards it is to function in clock time, but believing all happiness and fulfillment will come from it, is falling into the trap of negative psychological time.

Psychological time is blurred with emotions and impairs the ability to function optimally. “Think of these emotions as raindrops on a car’s windshield. If we become absorbed in them, then we can’t see where we are going or what we are going to crash into. But, if we take a deep breath and look through them, we still know they are there and that there is also the road ahead,” explains Shannon Duncan.

Becoming aware of the grip of negative psychological time and shrugging it off and returning into clock time or present moment awareness, creates the clear space for accomplishing our goals in life.

3rd: Infuse Mindfulness in your life

The practice of specific techniques, incorporated into daily living, can also provide a way forward. You can add daily positive affirmations to your day, daily time for meditation and a little time to just be and do nothing.
“It is essential to bring more consciousness into your life in ordinary situations when everything is going relatively smoothly. In this way you grow in presence power,” advises Eckhart Tolle.

4th: Routine Task Mindfulness

Mindfulness can be practiced in the most ordinary situations. You can begin by choosing any routine chore- brushing your teeth, doing the dishes, watering the plants, typing a page, anything. Now devote your full attention to the task. Try brushing your teeth mindfully by being aware of smell, taste, texture, touch, and movement. By paying attention to the minutest detail. The quality of your attention can transform the ordinary moment and reveal its unique potential.

This magical quality can be transferred too, to your relationships. Simply take a few minutes off to observe without labeling those closest to you. Just try looking at your child, at your partner, your mother. Really pay attention to them as they are. Whenever you’re caught evaluating what you see, just note thinking and come back to seeing with bare attention. In sharing the pure essence of their being, you enter into a deeper communion with them and with yourself.

5th: Listen

Shutting the eyes and focusing on listening to all the sounds around is another technique for fully entering the present. The trick is to be still and attentive to sound. Let sound in, hearing sounds as they are without judging what you hear. There’s no right or wrong sound. Just listen – a dog barking, birds singing, a car honking, traffic whirring past, a faucet dripping, a colleague’s cough, a phone ringing.

As you listen to this medley of noises of life playing out, you experience the richness of being connected to all life and are able to detect the harmony within. It’s all right here in this moment.

6th: Body Scan

Developing a conscious awareness of the body helps to keep the mind in the present moment. Practice this age-old yogic technique:

Lie down in a relatively quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Lie on your back with your legs outstretched and your arms at your sides. Feel the alignment of your body as a whole, and feel the floor support your body. It is important not to try to relax or to try to achieve anything. Just pay close attention and notice sensations as precisely as you can.

There is no right or wrong thing to feel. Bring your attention to the toes of your left foot and become aware of any sensation of temperature, touch, moisture, or air currents. Let your attention rest there for a few seconds. Then, as you inhale, let go of the toes and bring attention to the bottom of the foot, then to the top of the foot, then to the ankle, then the lower leg. Follow all the way to the left hip and then start with the toes of the right leg. Scan your whole body this way.

Regular practice creates a connection with the energy field of your body. When faced with a challenge -creative or otherwise – a few moments of retreating into body consciousness can create that space from which to jump forth with confidence.

7th: Breath Awareness

“What’s nice about using the breath as a focus for mindfulness is that it is portable, always available to our attention, and is a natural rhythm of the body,” says Dr Ernest Shaw.

Find a comfortable chair or cushion to sit on. Sit erect, but relaxed. You can close your eyes or leave them partially open. Now bring your attention to your stomach. Notice it fill with the intake of breath, and then fall when you exhale. Just pay attention to the rising and falling of the belly. Do not try to alter your breathing in any way.

Just be with it as it is. When your mind wanders, which it will and you realize you’re no longer with the breath, but caught up in thinking, just make a conscious mental note that you’re thinking and come back to the breath. This is all you have to do – return to this moment whenever you realize you’ve drifted away.

8th: Thought Awareness

Paying attention to the mind itself can paradoxically serve to still it. Just sit quietly and direct your mind to watch the next thought as it comes. For a while, as you wait in perfect alertness, there will be no thought – only your watching presence as it stands guard.

9th: Take Witness Breaks

The essence of transformation is “a non-judgmental witnessing, viewing, or seeing of yourself and how you interact with your life.” If through the helter skelter of our daily routines we can take a few moments to catch ourselves in the act of living, the self-awareness can serve as a powerful torch illuminating the way ahead.

With the aid of an alarm in your wristwatch or through a timer on your PC, randomly schedule a witness break or two through your day. As the alarm goes off take a few seconds to observe yourself – what are you doing?

Make it a habit to monitor your mental-emotional state through self-observation. “Am I at ease at this moment?” is a good question to ask. Or you can ask: “What’s going on inside me at this moment?” Just a few seconds of observation before you carry on with whatever task you are engaged in is all that is required.

Learning the grammar of present moment awareness could help you write a new chapter in your life. Infuse your life with the current moment and the present could be your best ever gift to yourself!


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Ten Point Credo of an Evolved Consciousness

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 by Dr. Ervin Laszlo –

1. I am part of the world. The world is not outside of me, and I am not outside of the world. The world is in me and I am in the world. 

2. I am more than a skin-and-bone material organism: my body and its cells and organs are manifestations of what is truly me: a self-sustaining, self-evolving dynamic system arising, persisting and developing in interaction with other such systems and with the world around me. 

3. I am one of the highest, most evolved manifestations of the drive toward coherence and wholeness in the world. My essence is this cosmic drive. It is the same essence that is inherent in all the systems that arise and evolve in the universe. 

4. There are no absolute boundaries and divisions among the systems that arise and evolve in the universe, only transition points where one set of relations yields prevalence to another.  

In me, in this self-maintaining and self-evolving coherence- and wholeness-oriented system, the relations that integrate the cells and organs of my body are prevalent.  Beyond my body other relations gain prevalence: those that drive toward coherence and wholeness in humanity, nature, and throughout the universe. 

5. The separate identity I attach to my fellow humans is a convenient convention to facilitate my interaction with them. My family and my community are just as much “me” as the cells and organs of my body.  

There are only gradients of intensity in the relations that distinguishing individuals from each other and from the world, no absolute divisions and boundaries. There are no “others” in the world: we are all dynamic, coherence and wholeness oriented systems in the world and we are part of the world and so part of each other. 

6. Collaboration, not competition, is the royal road to the wholeness and coherence that hallmarks healthy systems in the world. Collaboration calls for trust, empathy and solidarity.  

Comprehension, conciliation, and forgiveness are not signs of weakness but signs of courage. Harming others, even under the banner of patriotism and national or corporate interest is a mistaken intention. I am part of whoever I harm, and so I harm myself. 

7. “The good” for me and for everyone in my world, is not the possession and accumulation of wealth. Wealth, whether in money or in a material resource, is but a means for maintaining myself in my environment.  

As exclusively mine, it commandeers a part of the resources that all living beings on the planet need to share if they are to live and thrive. Exclusive wealth is a threat to everyone in the community of life on the planet, and because I as well as the holders of wealth are part of this community, it is a threat to the wealthy, and to me. 

8. A healthy person has pleasure in giving: it is a higher pleasure than having. I am healthy and whole when I value giving over having. The true measure of accomplishment and excellence is my readiness to give, whatever I can give without harming myself, my family and those in my care.  

A community that values giving over having is a community of healthy persons, thriving through solidarity and love. Sharing enhances the community, while possessing and accumulating creates demarcation, invites competition and fuels envy. The share-society is the norm for all communities of life on the planet; the have-society is an aberration. 

9. Only life and its development have intrinsic value as ends in themselves.  All other things have value only insofar as they add to or enhance life and its development.  

Material things and the energies and substances they need or generate, have value only insofar they contribute to the development of life in the community of all beings on the planet. 

10. I recognize my responsibility for evolving my consciousness and through my example for helping the evolution of consciousness in others.  

We have been part of the aberration of human consciousness in the modern world and we need to be part of the evolution that overcomes that aberration. Living and working toward this goal is my duty, as a conscious member of a conscious species in a conscious cosmos.


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Facing Financial Challenges


by Julie Redstone –

So many have written with prayer requests in relation to a desperate financial situation that we deemed it important to offer this overall perspective to benefit those in need. Please consider these ideas, derived from principles of light and let them resonate with your own inner sense of truth:

1. Trust.

In all instances where life seems to present what appear to be insurmountable circumstances, trust is needed – trust that there is a way through the difficulty and that Divine support and guidance can be found. Trust is a necessary spiritual quality of the embodied soul facing life challenges.

2. Disconnect from fear.

Trust cannot flourish in the presence of fear. It is limited by fear. And so those who wish to improve the chances of finding the way through difficulty need to try to disconnect from fear and believe that a way through can be found.Where fear is strong, one must practice disconnecting over and over again.

3. Seek inner guidance.

Every human being has access to inner guidance from the Divine source within. Such guidance is important in decision-making and in knowing which direction to take.

Light a candle and ask for guidance about the way through the challenges you face. Listen in quiet for the inner voice of truth that you carry. Let your mind become silent. Listen to your heart and to your deeper knowing.

4. Explore possibilities.

Do not believe that you are helpless or that there is no open road ahead of you. Believe that with God’s help you can create a different outcome than the one you most fear. Trust that not all paths are closed.

5. Believe you are loved.

Do not think that because things seem desperate that you are not loved by God. There are reasons for what is happening to you financially, emotionally, and in all ways. This is a time of planetary transition, and many are going through huge internal and external upheavals. In the presence of these upheavals, God is holding you.

6. Monitor your thoughts.

Your inner thoughts and feelings have much to do with what happens to you outwardly. Let your thoughts be of hope and of a positive outcome to your dilemma.Turn to inner guidance and to the deepest truth of your heart for a truth that can sustain you.

7. Value love in all forms.

In times of difficulty, allow love to cushion and comfort you, for love can hold all things and make all things bearable. The valuing of love is in itself a way through all difficulty.

8. Connect.

Do not isolate yourself, but connect with others. Let yourself be part of a world that supports hope, not part of a world that supports despair. Know that no matter what you are going through, you are not going through it alone.

May these principles of light, light your way.
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Life’s Creative Process

We are Creators:

by Peter and Esther Fisher –

The greatest secret in the world is that you and I are incredibly powerful and aware creators. We are immersed in and responsible for the creative process, which dictates the outcome of our individual and collective lives in every moment. 
We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Our world is exactly what we collectively design it to be — all of the time and that our universe operates as if we knew that we were powerful creators. Our world expects that we know that what we think and say is what we create and what we get. God has not left us but the reality is that we have left God! The time has finally come for us to wake up! 

The prerequisite for conscious creation is that we must have a strong belief if we are to be effective creators and that this strong belief is called “Faith.” 
We are part of God and we participate in creation — as creation continues in every moment — with us responsible. Creation did not happen sometime in the past and then end, it continues right now. 

The entire world is God. Everything there is — is God. 

The trees, the grass, the buildings, all of humanity are all part of God. A beautiful sunrise and a breathtaking sunset are part of God. The “good” folk as well as the terrorists are all part of God. ‚”Good” and ‚”evil‚” are part of God. There is no duality, no ‚”they and we;‚” we are all part of One thing. We are all One. Everything and we are therefore part of God. 

We live in a spiritual world. 

We are spiritual beings expressing and living as human beings with tangible, palpable forms. The spiritual realm we ‚”come from” is an invisible world to us from our point of awareness. The spiritual entities that we are are invisible but none the less very ‚”real.‚” 

The invisible spiritual realm is controlling. Everything that we can see in form from our human vantagepoint first proceeds from the invisible spiritual realm – from our thoughts. Spirit encompasses form; form is encompassed by spirit. Creation is the movement of spirit into form, the progression of the invisible to the visible, the progression of thought to form. 

We are spiritual beings having a human experience, not the reverse. 

What the Creative Process Is

Each of us has an invisible aura of creative energy around us that we can call our spiritual realm or our God selves. It is this energy or Invisible Cause that we each express and emanate in every moment of every day of our lives. Although invisible, its effects are very, very real and visible all around us. 

Our very world is as it is because of the creative process. 

We are each powerful creative beings. We are creators of the physical forms in our lives. We are also the creators of all the outcomes in our lives and in our world. What we think, say and believe is what we get. In spite of what we may wish it to be (because we wouldn’t have to assume responsibility), our world is exactly what we collectively design it to be — all of the time. 

Our universe operates as if we knew that we were powerful creators. It expects that we know that what we create is what we get. The universe doesn‚’t know that many of us don‚’t yet understand that it is all up to us! Many of us still want to blame the situation in the world on someone else (like the terrorists!) or on God somewhere ‚”out there.‚”) Some of us ask why God has “left us‚” to a world that doesn’t seem to work for us when the reality is that we have left God! 

The time has finally come for us to wake up! We might just as well become consciously aware that we are powerful creative beings and get good at it because we haven’t done such a hot job up to now — in our ignorance and misunderstanding. We have been as children and it is now time to mature and grow up. This is not meant as a criticism or blame, for we did not know. 

The truth is that our invisible, spiritual realm is orchestrated completely by us — individually and collectively. Our ideas, emotions, prayers, intentions and thoughts orchestrate our lives. This is why we say, “Watch what you think, for thoughts are things!‚” And especially “Watch what you say, because words are also things!‚” 

Isn‚’t this exactly how God works? This is why we are all creators right along with God — we are all part of God. God is the energy that is all around us, everywhere. There is one universal energy, which is the one God. Everything in our world is God and we are part of God. 

The Law of Creation

Our thoughts, prayers and intentions assemble the invisible “particles‚” of the invisible spiritual realm into visible forms via a very specific ‚”Law‚” – the particles are energetically assembled by our words, thoughts and emotions into things. We are the ones doing it! 

The Law of Creation exists for our use and works equally for everyone. 

It is well known, for example, that human beings, all animals and other inanimate forms are comprised of photons — or the particles that emanate from the sun. We are literally, then, ‚”Light Beings.” As light beings it is our heritage and natural way of being to assemble these invisible particles into yet other forms by relying on the Law of creation. 

How the Creative Process Works

The invisible particles in the spiritual realm are organized into specific forms by energy coming from us, from humans and generate visible forms. A prerequisite for conscious creation is that we must have a strong belief if we are to be effective creators. This strong belief is called “Faith.‚” We must have a strong belief, or a strong faith that we are indeed creators and that we can indeed create forms and outcomes. When we know this we can proceed to consciously create a world we want! A world that works! A world of love and peace! We have choices in every moment. 

The natural Law of creation is available to all of us and whether we are aware of it or not the law is in operation continuously without fail. 

If all of this is difficult for you to believe or to comprehend, then please intentionally suspend your disbelief for just a moment. Then ‚”act as if‚” you believe. Proceed as if you knew deep in your heart, deep in your consciousness that you are an aware creator and then allow your manifestations and creations to prove to you how this process works. Keep at it consciously. 

To help us understand the creative process even better, think of those times when your prayers were answered, when what you were strongly thinking about happened or what you verbalized over and over or were obsessed about came into being. 

Electricity as An Analogy

To help us explore this creation/manifestation process more deeply, let‚’s review the well-known scientific facts about the generation of electricity. You don’t have to be scientific to consider this analogy. 

Electricity – a substance or energy we all use everyday but cannot see and must accept on faith – is essentially created out of ‚”thin air.‚” No one knows what electricity is, but the laws of using electricity are well known. These well-known laws of electricity are analogous to the well-known (but previously hidden) law of creation. These laws work, they exist, they are ‚”there,” but their why is still a deep mystery. 
Electricity as many of us already know is created by moving two magnetic fields close to or within each other. The act of moving those magnets generates or creates electricity out of thin air. Its that simple! The specific electrical laws of the universe have been discovered over a hundred years or more and are well known. Again, however, to amplify, no one knows why electricity works! But we surely know that it does work. We don’t give electricity a second thought yet it is exactly analogous to spiritual creation, which we are exploring here. The Law of creation is likewise well-known. 

To complete this analogy, lets look at radio and the early days of television – or satellite television today. By broadcasting electrical energy through the ‚”ethers,‚” a program produced in one place is invisibly transmitted to another place where there is a receiver, which recreates the program. We still do not know why this happens, even though we do understand the hows and the laws involved. We don‚’t give a second thought to why we can listen to a radio or see a television picture broadcast through thin air. The LAW of the energy of spirit works the very same way. 

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The Art of Relating


by Keith Varnum – 

I cringed at every loaded word in the title of Dale Carnegie’s celebrated book, How to Win Friends and Influence People! My mother—God bless her!—made me take the Dale Carnegie Training forty years ago when I was in junior high school. The idea that I had to change myself to “win” friends and “influence” people felt manipulative and distasteful to an idealistic teenager. But once I absorbed the authentic attitude of Carnegie’s way of connecting with people, I heartily embraced his approach. He encourages us to “learn to love, respect and enjoy other people.” He emphasizes methods for interacting with people without making them feel manipulated.
The essence of the Dale Carnegie can be captured in this revealing statement: “Wouldn’t you like to have a magic phrase that would stop argument, eliminate ill feeling, create good will and make the other person listen attentively? Yes? All right. Here it is. Begin by saying: ‘I don’t blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you, I should undoubtedly feel just as you do.’”
I only now realize how profoundly my life has been molded by those evenings spent with Carnegie’s spirit. I see now that I did assimilate his wisdom on a deep level and have since used his insights every step of my path to success and happiness.
Carnegie’s book might be more accurately entitled “The Art of Relating.” Awareness of self and awareness of others are his two guiding principles. His sense of “influence” is not about getting our own way. Influence to him is an art. Influence is about seeing a mutually harmoniously way to achieve a desired outcome. 

The heart of Carnegie’s work is about getting excited about others. Carnegie encourages us to see other people as wonderful tapestries adorned with luxurious threads of experiences. At this point techniques cease to be techniques and begin to become a genuine, natural aspect of how we relate to each other.

Dale Carnegie was a pioneer in public speaking and personality development.  He was born in 1888 in Missouri and educated at a small state teachers college. As a salesman and aspiring actor, he traveled to New York and began teaching communications classes to adults at the YMCA. In 1912, the world-famous Dale Carnegie Course was born. He wrote his now-renowned book How to Win Friends and Influence People in 1936. 

His work was an overnight hit and has sold more than 15 million copies. Carnegie had an understanding of human nature that will never be outdated. Carnegie’s tome to people skills is every bit as relevant today as it was when he first wrote this gem. Currently, there are over 2,700 professional instructors that offer the Dale Carnegie Training in more than 75 countries in 25 languages. 


Dale Carnegie teaches that life achievement is due to “the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people.” His Carnegie Institute of Technology conducted investigations that found about 15 percent of a person’s financial success is due to technical knowledge; 85 percent is due to skill in human engineering—the ability to lead people. He teaches these skills through underlying principles of dealing with people so that they feel important and appreciated.
For example, if you have employees, co-workers or family members who aren’t doing their duties responsibly, you have many options available to you. You can scold them or hound them. Those of us who have tried this approach find that it rarely works, especially in the long term. Dale explains what techniques do work reliably in these situations. The book expands your roster of options, so that when you hit life challenges, you have a variety of pragmatic, effective tools to apply.
Carnegie is also a master of communication skills. You feel a human being is talking directly to you. You know that a heartful person wrote this book. He has a crisp, lively style that keeps you involved. He initially engages you in each chapter with practical questions and relevant stories. He’ll first explain the issue, and then give real life examples of how handling the issue properly helped a real person in a real world situation. He illustrates his points with anecdotes of historical figures, leaders of the business world, and everyday folks. His suggestions are all straightforward, simple, doable tactics. Once you practice and master them, they can make a powerful difference in how others interact with you.
How to Win Friends and Influence People! covers several essential areas of everyday life such as arousing enthusiasm among your associates, learning to make friends easily, cultivating positive emotions, being tactful, solving problems, and learning to speak effectively. For over 70 years the rock-solid, time-tested advice in this book has carried thousands of now famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives.

The book offers 3 basic techniques for building harmonious personal and professional relationships:

1. “Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.” Most people don’t respond very well to condemnation or complaint. Positive reinforcement works better.
2. “Give honest and sincere appreciation.”
3. “Arouse in the other person an eager want.”

Carnegie offers 6 winning “ways to make people like you.”

1. “Become genuinely interested in other people … you’ll be welcome anywhere!”
2. “Smile. A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression!”
3. “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest sound in any language.”
4. “Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.”
5. “Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.”
6. “Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.”

Carnegie presents 12 effective ways to promote cooperation and “win people to your way of thinking.”

1. “The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.”
2. “Show respect for the other person’s opinions.”
3. “If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.”
4. “Begin in a friendly way.”
5. “Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately.”
6. “Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.”
7. “Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.”
8. “Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.”
9. “Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.”
10. “Appeal to the nobler motives.”
11. “Dramatize your ideas.”
12. “Throw down a challenge.”

The book proposes 9 powerful ways to “Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment.”

1. “Begin with praise and honest appreciation.”
2. “Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.”
3. “Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.”
4. “Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.”
5. “Let the other person save face.”
6. “Praise the slightest improvement. Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.”
7. “Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.”
8. “Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.”
9. “Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.”

What is the principal message of this book?

Live the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” How do you do this? Through empathy. Take an interest in other people. Understand their concerns and motives. Give them praise, encouragement and appreciation. Understand that one of the greatest human needs is to feel important and appreciated.

 Dale Carnegie’s concept of valuing humanity works as many wonders today as it did in his day. How to Win Friends and Influence People! is a book to be contemplated and practiced. It’s a book that keeps on giving. It’s a book that makes us more compassionate and successful human beings.   

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Self Mastery Metamorphosis

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Did you play on a see-saw as a child? Growing up, my little brother and I spent hours pushing each other up and down on this playground apparatus. And our game went like this… We would take turns holding each other up in the air while one of us weighted the board down in the dirt – until that got boring; or we would see if we could hold the see-saw still and balance each other- until that got boring; or we would just see-saw up and down – until that got boring.
It never failed – the see-saw, like the swings and the merry-go-round in our neighborhood park, got boring pretty quickly. No matter how ‘differently’ we tried to get it to behave, or how creative we were with our imagination, the see-saw just went up and down. It was true to its nature. It performed exactly like it was designed to perform.
We have a part of us that operates much the same way as that see-saw. It’s called the ‘human nature’ and its job is to maintain the status quo – the existing state of affairs. 
This is all fine and dandy until one day we wake up and decide that the habitual ‘state of affairs’ is boring and limiting. AND because we forgot when and how we originally created our status quo (those choices went unconscious years ago) we are lost as to how to create something new and different in our lives.
Examples of the status quo
If, in the area of your life called finances, you are conditioned through limiting beliefs for your cash flow to see-saw up and down – that’s what your cash flow will do. One month/year you will have surplus and the next month/year you will not have enough.
Or in relationships, if habitual emotional responses have you always going in circles – then your relationships will feel like a merry-go-round. Each time you enter into a new relationship you will vow not to repeat the same ‘mistakes’ of the past, but before long the challenges feel too familiar.
Or what about swinging back and forth from too much worrying, stress, ‘what ifs’ to negative self-talk of too much or not enough? This drama/trauma takes the peace and joy out of every day life because you are always waiting for the other ‘shoe to drop.’ Feel familiar? I refer to this constant drama/trauma playground behavior as the ‘status quo’.
Who decides what the ‘status quo’ is in our lives?

WE DO, at a pretty young age. We decide, based on our experiences as a child, what is right and what is wrong. We choose our beliefs, our perceptions and our values and then uphold those choices with our thoughts and feelings. We create a world view in which all is controllable, knowable and makes sense to our human nature. And even more important, these habitual emotions, thoughts, beliefs, conditioning and perceptions keep us feeling safe and secure.
But what if I no longer want to have feast or famine in my finances; or the same old relationship issues? What if I want more peace, joy, happiness and success in my life?
Can I change the status quo?

The short answer is ‘yes’. The longer answer is a process of uncovering and discovering the beliefs that are fueling your perceptions, learn new skills of self-mastery to access an expanded playing field and choose to play a different game. Think about the default setting on your computer. Until you consciously change the settings that came with your computer you get what the manufacturer set.
Our consciousness works similarly. 
Unless you consciously set another default setting for what you want/desire – like an expansive dream, wealth, health and happiness; or a new approach in relationships with spouse/family/friends-and then do what it takes to rewire, realign and redirect the levels that are involved – you will not operate beyond the default playground of your life.
In other words, the default agenda of your human nature will continually override any positive affirmation to change, desire to change, or attempt to change.
Sound hopeless? Well, it’s not. Because you are much more than your human reactive nature. Beyond the drama/trauma playground lies a greater reality. I call it thecocreation playing field. The status quo here is growth, expansion and revelation. There are no rides that make you dizzy from self-sabotaging behavior ad nausea.
Soul – your divinity is in charge of this playing field and every moment can potentially be full of fresh, new awareness. 
To access this new playing field of being, seeing, acting and thinking I have given the process a name: becoming a spiritual scientist. A spiritual scientist: one who observes through the eyes of the soul how to work masterfully with the human reactive nature, apply the learning to their life and cocreate heaven on earth.
Is it fun? Or is it hard work?

Depends on how you approach the process. If you see every new choice as moving you from struggle, guilt, stress, fear and disappointment into peace, joy, expansion, fulfillment and loving, the part of you that was ‘playing it safe’ now experiences a new reference point for security and safety. Excitement replaces trepidation and grace is present in every step.
The metamorphosis process of the caterpillar into a butterfly has a very interesting stage. In its chrysalis stage the ‘imaginary cells’ of the butterfly template are already present. But the chrysalis, thinking that the imaginary cells are foreign tries to destroy the cells. However, because these cells are what the chrysalis must become, the process is not sabotaged. The power within those imaginary cells are greater than the knee jerk reaction to destroy them.
You have within you the ‘blue print cells’ of another way to live life… and the power of your divine self that can not be sabotaged. Every time, through practice, you move beyond judgment, shame or blame and open to compassion, acceptance and forgiveness the power within grows stronger. Then, magically, when the process is complete, what has always been present but hidden within, emerges. You then become who you truly are: radiant, whole, healed, empowered and alive with joy!
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The 5 Principles of Authentic Living

by Robert Rabbin – 

I would like to share with you The 5 Principles of Authentic Living, which represent nearly 50 years of self-study and self-expression.

The first led to self-realization based on direct experience; the second led to unfettered forms of actualizing that realization in the world. These five principles comprise 10 simple words: two words per principle. They are my scripture, the profoundly holy and profusely practical book I use to guide me along the pathless path of an authentic life. The value of this book isn’t so much in the reading of it (10 words, after all, doesn’t take long), but in the doing of it.
Embodiment. The value of these 10 words is in direct proportion to the degree we embody them.
At the age of 11, I began questioning things, especially myself. Who the hell was I? What is truly going on here? What should I do, and how should I live? So, I began to wander in search of credible answers.
When I was 23, I found myself in India, where I walked into the ashram of Swami Muktananda to visit a friend—I thought for a few days. A few days became more than 10 years. Muktananda’s basic message and teaching was simply this: Meditate on your own Self. God dwells within you as you.
Easy enough, I thought. Find the truthful core of my own Self, speak to that inner God, and I’d know all the answers to all my questions. I began to meditate on my own Self. It wasn’t that easy. There was this little thing called “mind” which seemed to wreak all kinds of havoc with my simple plan of meditating on my Self and chatting with God.
Nonetheless, I persevered as best I could. 10 years went by. More years. Then and I don’t know exactly when it happened, I was taken by silence. My mind was no longer an impediment. Everything just settled. I can’t say how or why, because I truly do not know how or why.
I suddenly had my answers, but they were different from what I thought they would be. Instead of planting my flag on the summit of absolute truth and certainty, I found no mountain and non-answers, or anti-answers. My questions dissolved and then disappeared—and so did my confusion and anxiety about life. So did I, in a certain way.
I can’t write more about what I found. I’m not that brave or foolish. I can, however, tell you where I found everything I was looking for: The five Principles of Authentic Living. You see, over the years, my teacher’s simple “Meditate on your own Self” became these five principles and God and Self became an authentic life. The principles reflect how I continued to explore the inside while expressing on the outside.
With these five principles I found the fulfillment of my search for self-knowledge, for meaning and truth, for my place in the world. These five principles revealed the answers and they continue to illuminate my path, moment by moment, effortlessly and flawlessly. 
I am never lost or confused. I always know where to go and what to do, just as I know when to be still and do nothing.
With these five principles as my mentors, I know how to live authentically. I am able to remain awake and alert and keenly aware of life from the inside out, and from the outside in. I know how to tap into and touch the very core of my inner creative consciousness and power, and I know how to express the many facets of that core in unique and enlivening ways.
Today, I live within the nuclear emptiness of these principles; they are my default posture in life.
I am convinced that we each have within our own self the blueprint for living authentically, for discovering from within our self our own deeply personal and truthful responses to Who am I? and How shall I live? These 10 words are not a prescription for what, but how. I cannot tell you who you are, what to want or what to believe, where to go and what to do, or what is real.
Even if I could, I’d say that for the sake of authenticity you ought to find out for yourself. I will, however, tell you that my own search for “self-realization,” for a truthful and heartfelt life, came to fruition in these 10 words.
Over the years, I have been told that my spoken and written words have touched the lives of many people, and that many are the better for it. And I will tell you that all my words and actions have come from within the creative and expressive hub of these five principles set out in 10 words. The contributions I’ve made to people in my professional roles—as author, organizational consultant, leadership adviser, self-awareness teacher, public speaking guru, spiritual activist, and life mentor—flow from these 10 words.
Virtually every issue I’ve helped clarify, every problem I’ve helped solve, every condition I’ve helped improve, every insight I’ve helped generate—whether for myself or with individuals, couples, groups, teams, companies—has originated in one or more of these 10 words. These 10 words, these five principles, serve me well. They are the source of my knowing, feeling, and acting.
If you live with any doubt, confusion, or conflict about who you are and how you should live, these ten words may likewise be a gateway for you to live authentically, to live the life that only you can live. In this regard, I feel that we all share a common purpose: to tell the truth of our authentic self without fear, and to live this truth with as much energy as we might like to muster. This is how we become a blessing to our self, and to others: to tell the truth that only we can tell. This is living authentically, and in this we are each best suited to know what to say, what to do, how to live.
We know. We come in knowing. We can never completely forget, though sometimes we might need a reminder. I certainly did. 
The 5 Principles of Authentic Living
1. Be Present
Be Present means to not be defined or determined by the thoughtstream—the constant flow of thoughts, images, beliefs, and emotions. Be Present is the blessing we need in order to experience our self and the world directly, unmediated by the content of the thoughtstream.
2. Pay Attention
Pay Attention means to notice what we’re doing in real time. It means to notice the effects we produce. It means to notice everything that’s happening—inside and out—while it’s happening, in real time.
3. Listen Deeply
Listen Deeply means to hear the constant stream of wordless clarity that comes from beneath the surface of the thoughtstream. The silence beneath the thoughtstream is a language of insight.
Speak Truthfully is how we bring what is inside, outside; how we mark the world with our presence. This is how we announce and represent our authentic self to others and how we are heard and known by them. Speak Truthfully reveals, rather than conceals, our authentic self, purpose, intentions, and motives; it shows the strength of our spine and quality of our character.
5. Act Creatively
Insight without action is delusion. When the great Sir Lawrence Olivier was asked where he learned his acting technique, he laughed and said it wasn’t learned but developed and refined over countless moments of inspiration, experimentation, risk, and creativity.
Authentic acting, as in action, and authentic living are one and the same. Many, if not most, people on various paths of self-knowledge neglect this; they discount action. I don’t. It’s where and how we demonstrate the truth of our insight and attainment. Speaking about bullfighting is very different from being in the ring with the bull!