We can all get attached to the outcome of one thing or another, especially when it’s uncertain. I’m sure you know people who are so attached to something, they feel that if it doesn’t turn out they way they want, they won’t be happy. In fact, they place their whole source of happiness on having that thing work out correctly.
Whether its a job, a relationship, a possession, a person- we often hold on so tightly to that one thing that we exclude the possibility of other options.
Think about the balloon in the picture. If the person still held on to that balloon, what happens? It means that they are less likely to be able to catch other things that come their way. And the same goes for our expectations for particular outcomes.
It’s great to have a positive expectation (like for example that you’ll get the job you applied for), but if that attachment becomes all-consuming then you lose sight of the many other possibilities that might be right in front of you.
When we learn to let go of the things that might make us happy, even the really important things, paradoxically you begin to feel happier.
Well if you are attached to that particular job, person, or situation, control is out of your hands- you’re depending on something else for your fulfillment.
There’s also another reason to let go of attachments – they evolve over time. Nothing stays the same and that outcome you want now will always change. Our desires are forever growing in the need for self-expression and if your greatest attachment now is fulfilled, what then? Yep, you guessed it, there’ll be another one there to replace it.
Once you let go of the need to be attached to how a particular event will turn out, you will feel in control of it all – and your happiness will depend on you.