Making Difficult Decisions with Ease

by Carol James – 

Have you ever struggled to make a decision? 
Do you sometimes base your decisions solely on what you think you will get as a result of a given choice? For instance, if you thought “If I take that job, I will have more money, and when I get more money then I can stop worrying about my bills,” your decision would be based on being able to pay your bills, not on being excited about the job.
The problem with a “If I do this then I will have that and when I get that, I will have or be. . .” approach is that if this doesn’t turn out to give you that, which frequently happens, you end up in a state of worry, anxiety or fear.
Of course, when first making the decision you are filled with enthusiasm and expectation of a fabulous outcome. 
I call this stage the honeymoon period: the “in love” stage when everything is rosy and you couldn’t see a blemish with a microscope. However, the decision was made because of an expectation to get something, so it is inevitable that you will start monitoring whether or not it has arrived.
If what is wanted comes quickly, the “in love” state continues to flourish. But when it doesn’t. . .well, there’s just too much negative chatter, doubt and lack found in that state.

There is another, far better place from which to make decisions: the heart. 

The heart’s filter wants to know:
  • Do I feel inspired about this option?
  • Does it feel like the “right” thing to do?
  • Will I grow and expand from this experience?
  • Will everyone involved be uplifted by this choice?
  • Can I feel good about my choice regardless of the outcome?
  • Does it cause my heart to sing?
Instead of laboring over decisions, give yourself time to notice how you feel about each option under consideration, then pick the one that resonates the most with your heart. By doing so, you will naturally pursue the best option. 
After all, your inner knowing – the heart center is the wisest one of all.

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Thought Provoking Ideas About Self Empowerment

by Carol James –
  1. There are infinite variations in how people see any single event.
  2. The way I choose to see an event determines my experience. My experience is determined by the way I see an event. I can choose to see an event in a way that uplifts me or diminishes me.
  3. I am who I think I am. I am my own thoughts about myself made manifest.
  4. Whatever I focus on expands, giving me more of that which I am focused on.
  5. I will always find evidence to support the thoughts I am having.
  6. My thoughts, words, feelings and actions set the tone for the circumstances of my life.
  7. When I set my own tone, I can be anywhere and with anyone and still live exactly the life I am wanting.
  8. True faith comes from knowing that no matter what things look like, all is well and will turn out for the best.
  9. Nothing stays the same.All conditions and circumstances are temporary, and how they change depends on the choices I make.
  10. Nothing is more important than that the choices I make feel right to me.
  11. The greatest gifts I can give myself are to think for myself and to form my own conclusions.
  12. Filtering choices through my heart produces experiences that enrich and uplift myself and others.
  13. I have an inner self that exists eternally.
  14. My inner self is communicating with me all the time and in many ways.If I don’t pay attention, then I will miss its messages.
  15. Feelings, language of the inner self, operate as a guidance system.
  16. There are really only two emotions: one feels good (love-based) and one does not (fear-based).Everything else is a variation on one of those two emotions.
  17. Instinct and intuition are natural guidance from my inner self and worth paying attention to.
  18. To want something while observing its lack is to push it away from me.
  19. What I fear I attract. What I resist persists.
  20. Appreciation and feeling bad cannot exist in the same moment.
  21. When I do what I love, I love what I do.

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