Conscious Ways to Help Others During Difficult Situations

by Evita Ochel –

Our planet is in the midst of various shifts and changes. This is bringing about turmoil in many areas. Some of the changes are geological, some political, some climate related and others yet brought about by the numerous systems on our planet that are collapsing as we speak.

Regardless of how they are generated, as with all sources of stress, it is never about what happens but how we handle it that matters most.

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Some of the most glorified events in the news have been related to the Earth’s climate and geological changes. It appears we feel most victimized when transformative events are nature generated. In our age and era of trying to control everything and everyone, nature is one aspect that we just cannot seem to be able to control (and for good reasons).

We continue to see numerous events on our planet bring about powerful changes, that are often labelled as “destructive” or “catastrophic”.

For example, a very powerful earthquake struck in the Port-Au-Prince area in Haiti, followed by numerous strong aftershocks. A powerful earthquake, along with a Tsunami struck the Tohoku coast of Japan. These are just two of the most powerful examples from the second decade of the 21st century and both resulted in numerous deaths, injuries and left millions of people homeless.

While such situations are far from desirable, the one thing that we can always notice happen amidst them is the amount of generated drama and negativity on top of them. Aside from the graphic images being played over and over on popular media, words such as disaster and catastrophe keep being drilled into all of our minds.

Many people accept that this is the “normal” way to act under circumstances like this. They consider it normal to gather around the office coffee machine and dwell over the poor people of the affected regions, not realizing that on a Global scale of consciousness, they are doing more harm than good.

Many people in our society consider it normal not only to negatively label such events but fuel them with negative emotions and thoughts in as many ways as they can (unconsciously of course). This is what many of us consider normal care and compassion.

However, the time has come when many of us are ready and able to see things in a new way. 

Many of us are stopping vicious cycles and old patterns of habit to adopt new, conscious ways of being. To inspire you further into conscious action, below are 4 ways to really help when difficult situations arise. No matter how big or small the situation is, there is a new consciousness shining through today in how we see and respond to so called difficult situations.

CONSCIOUS WAYS TO HELP:

1. Avoid Labeling the Situation 

Whether it is an extreme weather event or a relationship break-up, avoid labeling the situation period, but especially with negative words. Using words like crisis, tragedy, catastrophe or disaster isn’t helping anyone. 

Words like these carry ample amounts of negatively charged energy, and they do not help you or anyone else for that matter effectively deal with or rise above the situation. 

So what should you do? 

Part of being human is feeling emotion, and in no way would I want to disregard that very precious aspect of ourselves. However, what I have learned based on the many masters that have walked the Earth is that any and every situation just “is”. 

Just as we can label it as bad for reason a, b and c, someone else can label it as good for reasons x, y and z. It all depends on the viewpoint or perspective through which we choose to see it. 

Hence labeling something, especially with negatively charged emotion, delays all parties involved from moving through a situation, especially in any kind of empowering way. I know as a society it is all too easy to get caught up in what the masses are doing and saying, but drilling into a person that their situation is bad or lamenting with them about just how bad it is, is actually not a way to effectively help at all. 

If you truly feel for the person or parties involved, this is a time to show unconditional compassion and help them feel empowered in as many ways as you can. 

2. See and Trust In the Perfection That Is 

It is suggested that over 90% of people in the world believe in a “God”. Out of that number, on a daily basis a large proportion of these people, especially if they are religious preach about being thankful for the wonderful things that God has given us. However, when some sort of a so called negative situation arises, many of these same people are very quick to judge and equally blame that same God. 

For those of you who have attained a level of understanding of the deep connection and oneness between you and God – Source – Origin – Creator or however you identify this entity, you most likely understand the profound ways that each and every single one of us is tied to all of the things that manifest in our lives. 

We are one with the creator, we are one with each other, we are one with all that is. 

I think it is safe to say that most people who believe in “God” would agree that God is perfect. Hence if God is perfect, everything that is created by God can be seen as perfect. 

As human beings currently here in physical form it is all too easy for us to get caught up in judging things as “bad” or “good” – however in reality all things are perfect. 

It is easy to see the perfection of all that is in easy moments but it is exactly in those not so easy moments that we are called to rise up to our highest version of who we are and see the perfection of all that is. 

Not a leaf falls to the ground, not a bone is broken, not a child is born, not a storm strikes that was not perfectly accounted for through the power of creation. 

Therefore trust and have faith – that even though you may not be able to see it at this time, there is a perfect reason for every single event that occurs whether in the physical or spiritual realm. Every event, every person, every creation is part of a perfectly orchestrated divine plan that has nothing but our best interest at its core. 

And know and trust this too – that if you are touched by whatever “difficult” situation, whether directly or indirectly, it is because on a deeper level for a bigger purpose you knew this was in your best interest and you willingly chose to be a part of it for your soul’s evolution. 

3. Set Positive Intentions 

With regards to setting positive intentions, I am not talking here about some wishful thinking. In the last decade especially, we have discovered that the power of our thoughts is immense. Our minds are capable of great things, and with them come our thoughts – energy patterns that today we know are capable of creating our realities. 

Therefore no matter what the situation may be, if you do nothing else, set aside some time to really focus on and send whoever may need it some positive, loving and empowering intentions. 

You can even offer healing, whether it be physical, spiritual or emotional through your thoughts to a person or group who you feel can use it.  

Today, each and every moment, more and more of us recognize that we are co-creators in this world. Many of us have already come to acknowledge our gifts of healing – whether it be remote healing or in person. Many of us realize that through our thoughts, we can change the outcomes – we can change the world. 

Therefore, if there is someone or some group that you know can use your help, give them just a few minutes of your day. 

Focus your love, compassion and strength on them. Shower them with the gifts of healing energy. 

Don’t doubt yourself in whether your intentions are having an impact or making any difference. You don’t have to be a labeled healer or religious figure to help. All of us are equally special and able to help, you just have to believe in yourself and know that not one thought of love goes unnoticed in the Universe. 

4. Get Active 

No matter what the situation, whether you are ready to look more in depth at this world, our lives, our existence and all of the events in them, you can do one thing that is always of great help in any difficult situation – get active. 

Instead of sitting by dwelling on things, re-hashing things, lamenting over what was, go out there and offer your help in some way. Perhaps you can help financially if the situation warrants it, perhaps you can’t. But the one thing that most of us can do if we really want to help, is offer our time, talents, services or efforts. 

If an extreme weather event hits or a war breaks out, perhaps you cannot or choose not to go to the actual site, this however does not prevent you from helping out locally. There are numerous agencies that need help organizing aid. There are numerous tasks to be carried out remotely to help someone, somewhere else in the world. 

Whether you volunteer to take calls, organize a fundraiser, take care of your friend’s kids during a difficult time, or write a letter to the editor. There are so many ways to help – all of us can do it, if we of course choose to, that is. Instead of sitting back and feeling dis-empowered yourself. Instead of sitting back and sending out negative energy through worry, fear and blame, go out there and do something positive.

Be a proactive helper, instead of helpless bystander. 

No act is too small. No act is too insignificant. Even if you cannot help directly, helping indirectly another cause or situation still adds to raising the collective global consciousness. And most importantly remember, you don’t have to wait for any major difficult situation to strike in order to act. There are people in your community who can benefit from your help today. Some of them may be your family, friends and neighbors.

Through your awareness of your expanding consciousness, allow yourself to see and feel deeper and truly extend your support consciously where help is needed.

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Root Causes of Illness

Getting to the Origin of Pain and Suffering:
by Phylameana lila Desy –
Treating physical symptoms (pain, injury, infection, etc.) is the appropriate action to take to ease dis-ease. However, after a level of comfort or ease has been attained it is helpful to explore the possible root cause that led you to succumb to a specific illness.

With this information you will be better equipped to squash or eliminate vulnerabilities and susceptibilities that could affect recurrence. Our mental, emotional and spiritual bodies are also vulnerable to root issues erupting and causing energetic imbalances.

Mowing the lawn and cutting down the flower or leaf at the stem of a weed will not stop the offending plant from returning. You need to burrow down into the earth and eradicate the whole plant in order to kill it off completely, otherwise it will reappear. Cutting it will likely slow down its growth, but that’s all.

This is the same concept with dealing with physical illness and energetic imbalances, treating the “showy” symptoms is not enough. We must dig deeper, discover the cause, and treat the root issue in order to bring about a complete healing. Depending on how deep a root cause is, healing can take a while. It may take months or years, and in some cases, a lifetime. Just remember, healing is a journey.

It is actually best to treat imbalances in the early stages before they have had the opportunity to take root and manifest into the physical body. For example in the case of hereditary dis-eases, taking life style precautions (i.e. healthy diet, regular exercise) is an appropriate preventative measure.

Even in the event of “catching a germ” root causes cannot be overlooked entirely. One might ask himself why he caught the bug from a co-worker when other employees in his work place were unscathed by their exposure to the same influenza virus. What’s up with that? Immune deficiencies have root causes too.

Root Cause of Imbalance Origins Include:

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What? ME Worry?

by Lynn Robinson-

Worry is like any bad habit. It can be addictive.
One small fear leads to another and another. Before you know it, you’ve imagined your life falling apart, not only now, but ad infinitum into your future. One of the ways to begin breaking any habit is to simply recognize you’re doing it! Oops! “There I caught myself imagining not being able to pay my rent again, getting evicted and being homeless.”

“I believe God is managing affairs and that He doesn’t need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe everything will work out for the best in the end. So what is there to worry about?” —Henry Ford

Simply the recognition that you’re worrying isn’t usually enough to change it.
What can you do to switch the channel? Ask yourself the question, “What do I want?” For example, if your worry du jour is imagining yourself broke and penniless, turn it around. What you probably want is to feel safe.
You might also want to imagine having enough or more than enough money. Your task at this point is not to figure out how this will happen. It’s simply to begin choosing something you want versus something you don’t.
Just for today:
Remind yourself that God wants you to live a happy, healthy and abundant life. Allow yourself to receive all those Divine blessings.
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The Body of Oneness

by Anakha Coman and James Twyman – 
Your body is an expression of the living Oneness, a temple for the Divine presence. When you’re disconnected from yourself, you’re out of touch with your essence and nature; and you’re not resonating with the rest of the world. This disconnect keeps you from enjoying the many blessings and bliss of Oneness.

Today, take a moment to be still, becoming aware of your breath. Imagine that your body is like a stringed instrument that needs tuning. This adjustment will bring you into presence, putting you back in sync with the world. Being fully present in yourself means being perpetually in tune, ready to vibrate with each moment as it unfolds. Neither rejecting nor preferring any sensation, emotion or experience, you embrace the Oneness of life. This practice reconnects you to your natural state of wholeness.

See yourself as a Soul with a body 
rather than a body with a Soul.
–Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
“Our bodies know they belong; it is 
our minds that make our lives so homeless.”
–John O’Donohue
“The body is a sacred garment.”
–Martha Graham


Exercise: 
Begin by tuning into your body. Pay attention to any sensations that may appear as tension, energy, deadness, numbness, aliveness, pleasure, or any other emotion. Allow yourself to become present to your body, gently noticing your judgments, fears, distractions, and projections as they float to the surface. Return to your breath and acknowledge the truth that your body is a temple, an expression of the living Oneness.
Continue scanning your entire body. Begin with your feet and move slowly toward your head, observing and feeling each sensation: tingling, tension, energy, temperature, softness, pulsing, and so forth. Proceed slowly and examine each distinct part: your feet, ankles, calves, knees, thighs, pelvis, buttocks, belly, chest, back, shoulders, neck, and head. Give yourself time to complete this; it usually only takes ten minutes or so.
Assess your breathing. Is it deep or shallow? Fast or slow? Simply allow it to be. Pay attention to how your body responds to your breath: the rise and fall of your chest and belly, the air moving through your nostrils and throat, and your lungs pressing gently into your back. Become aware of your breath reaching all the way down to your feet. How does it feel there? In your hands? Your head?
Tune in to the subtleties of your body. Feel your heartbeat and relax into its simple, steady beat . . . the pulse of life that connects all things.
Now allow your body to rest in gentle awareness and loving compassion. Tap into the vibration, thought and feeling of absolute love. You may first feel it in your toes, your eyes, or in your throat—wherever its origin, let it grow until it encompasses your entire being. Experience absolute unconditional love. Feel everything—your cells, glands, bones, blood, and nervous system—vibrate to the frequency of love. Make this your intention now. Breathe love and compassion into your body temple. Allow it to move like a wave, cresting and falling. Feel the ecstasy of life and love flow through you. Bathe in this delight; feel the luminosity within you.
Pay attention to any area of your body that’s speaking to you. It may be a part that feels tense or painful, or perhaps it feels warm and relaxed. Be fully present and listen for its wisdom and guidance, for your body holds a wealth of information and connects you with the deeper truths of Oneness. In Oneness, all aspects of life are expressions of the Divine that inspire and guide you—your body is an example of this truth.
Play with this practice throughout the day, especially when you feel tired, out of sorts or disconnected. Within a few minutes of engaging in this, you can return to presence. Remember that your body can be used as an instrument of Oneness or of separation.

Today, choose to focus your body temple as an expression of the living Oneness. Let it guide you into a deep, meaningful resonance and relationship with the world.

Affirmations:

I AM fully alive and thriving in this moment, in tune with my body and the world.

I AM a Divine temple, an expression of the living Oneness.

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The Power of Positive Thoughts

 

Are you aware of how powerful your thoughts are?
Whatever you think about the most, you become! At Wings for the Heart, we strive to help you take control of your thoughts and improve them gradually so that every area of your life begins to mirror back the positive energy you are putting out.
Would you like to improve the quality of your life? Would you like to earn more money? Improve your health and feel better? Have more energy? Feel happy and inspired? Enjoy better relationships? 
All of this and more is possible when you learn how to gently guide your mind to focus on better and better thoughts.
It’s easier than you think! 
Start by signing up for our Positive Thought of the Day newsletter.  
It’s packed full of short and sweet positive thoughts! You’ll get plenty of helpful tips relating to optimism, self-love, happiness, confidence, empowerment, health and well-being, positive thinking, abundance, gratitude and more.
“Life is a mirror of your consistent thoughts.”
–Napoleon Hill

“Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit,
you can achieve a permanently happy spirit.”

–Norman Vincent Peale

“Plant the seed of desire in your mind and it forms a nucleus
with power to attract to itself everything needed for its fulfillment.”

–Robert Collier 

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Transforming Challenging Core Issues

Most of us have one or more challenging core beliefs which surface repeatedly over the course of our lives. These core beliefs are usually rooted in deep, unexpressed fears. Depending on your perspective, core beliefs either cause all sorts of problems or present many opportunities for growth. 

When you choose to look at core belief work as an opportunity, you are much more likely to transform your fears into learning tools which lead to a better life. 

Below are the most common core issues, their related fears or beliefs and suggestions for dealing with them.

Examples of Common Core Challenges and Associated Fears or Beliefs
  • Abandonment – Nobody cares about me. I’m all alone. I don’t matter. I can’t trust anyone.
  • Arrogance – I’m better than all of you. I’m too much. I’m right and you’re wrong.
  • Damaged – Something is wrong with me. I’m a failure. I’m damaged.
  • Inferiority – I’m not good enough. I’m stupid. I’m worthless. I’m boring. I’m hopeless.
  • Rejection – I’m a burden. I’m unwanted. Nobody wants to spend time with me.
  • Shame – I’m bad. I’m evil. I’m a mistake. I’m a monster. I’m disgusting. I’m possessed.
These challenging core beliefs often originate from childhood family scenarios. They can be a result of negative messages that were repeated many times to us by our parents or other significant people in our lives. Or one of these beliefs may have been driven deep into us during one or more traumatic experiences. 

Was one of the above core beliefs drilled into you in your early years?

Note that some people are overcompensators. If you are in this category, you may unconsciously do everything you can to make it appear as if you are anything but your core belief. For instance, someone with inferiority as a core belief might outwardly appear very macho or domineering. Yet deep inside, this is covering up a fear of being inferior. 

A person dealing with shame may be overly nice and giving to cover up a belief that they are really bad. Particularly if you are having trouble finding a core challenge, notice if any of your behavior is opposite of the core challenges above.

Examples of Behavior of Overcompensators
  • Abandonment – Always need to be included, join everything to avoid deeper feelings.
  • Arrogance – Act very humble, hiding their deeper belief that no one can match them.
  • Damaged – Present themselves as always great, avoid talking about their problems.
  • Inferiority – Macho, domineering, need to prove they are better than others.
  • Rejection – Present themselves as incredibly desirable, yet reject others easily.
  • Shame – Overly nice and giving. Overcompetency. Secretly fear being exposed as fraud.
Whether you are an overcompensator or not, by exploring the deep beliefs behind your fears, you can transform your life for the better. Though you may find that you have more than one of the above, generally one will be more prominent than the others. Particularly if this is new to you, we highly recommend you first focus on exploring your most prominent core challenge. To deal with this, you can then design intentions to gradually shift this deeply ingrained fear or belief.

Suggested Intentions for Transforming Fears, Core Beliefs
  • Abandonment – I am worthy of love. I can find ways to safely share myself with others.
  • Arrogance – I can learn from all around me. I can see goodness in everyone I meet.
  • Damaged – I am whole and complete just as I am. I can choose to love all of me.
  • Inferiority – I am a good, valuable person. I can make meaningful contributions to the world.
  • Rejection – I am an attractive, interesting person. People can enjoy getting to know me.
  • Shame – I can be gentle with myself. I can hold the best intentions for all deep in my heart. 
At the root of all of these core challenges is a lack of acceptance and a deep feeling of being disconnected. This disconnection can be from ourselves, from others, from our spiritual nature or from any combination of these. 

Here are two empowering intentions for transforming these most basic core beliefs: 


May I ever deepen my acceptance of myself and all around me. 
May I ever deepen my connection with myself and with all around me.

The above intentions are merely suggestions which you may or may not choose to use. By developing your own statements that resonate more strongly with your personal experience, you can transform your fears on a deeper level. 

Set aside time to explore these challenges. Change the wording any time you find something more appropriate. You might also invite close friends or family members to give suggestions. Writing down your intentions is highly recommended. Consider writing a set of life intentions and review them frequently to help keep you on track.

Once you have developed your intentions, cultivate an awareness of how and when your core challenge is triggered. Notice when you are telling yourself that same old story. Each time this happens, remind yourself of your deeper intention and open to shifting from your old, disempowering self-image into a new, fuller way of being. 


You can continually choose transformation by remembering to recognize fear as an invitation to growth.

Choose not to avoid or suppress your fears and core challenges. Working to accept and understand all parts of yourself, including your core challenges, opens the door to transformation and allows you more easily and naturally to access your beautiful deeper essence. This, in turn, can help you to live a much fuller and richer life. For overcompensators, who often have a strong tendency to avoid their fears, this is particularly important. You can find some empowering ideas on developing acceptance and understanding at this link.

Don’t be surprised if after having a significant breakthrough in transforming a core belief, you eventually find the same issue rearing its ugly head again in a different form. 

Most people find that transforming fear through working with their core beliefs is like peeling away layers of an onion. You make a significant breakthrough, only to eventually find the same old core belief manifesting in another, more subtle form. 

Yet as each layer is peeled away, you will very likely find your life to be richer, more meaningful and more enjoyable than it was before.


For more on transforming fear and core beliefs, there are many books, therapists and workshops which explore this fertile topic. We particularly recommend two inspiring books. Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth gives many powerful suggestions to recognize and transform limiting aspects of ourselves. Undefended Love, by Psaris and Lyons also gives excellent ideas and tools.

By identifying and choosing to transform our core challenging beliefs, we transform our deepest fears and end up feeling more alive and more connected with ourselves and with those around us. This then inspires us to participate more fully and effectively in building a brighter future for all.





For a guide to finding and developing your life purpose and intentions, click here

For a short essay on how we can work together to build a brighter future, click here



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