Although we may dislike this, pain actually is an opportunity for expansion and renewed life. Nature is forcing us to change–for our own benefit.
As adults, we create our own suffering as a result of wrong assumptions about ourselves and life which are usually established in childhood–often as a result of normal reactions and defense processes.
Pain and suffering in adults are lessons which show us where we are out of accord with our inner self. We need to take responsibility for ourselves and our experience and realize that we can change by releasing old ideas and patterns which are dysfunctional.
We have the innate ability to understand the lessons our experiences hold for us and to change so that we live a harmonious and fulfilling life regardless of what difficult experiences we have had. We have the potential of living a harmonious and fulfilling life.
Even the most successful among us have areas or times that are not so successful or happy. Gauge whether you need to work on issues in this section by answering the following questions.
- Do you sometimes loose control or do things you know you shouldn’t?
- Do you have habits you’d like to change but haven’t been able to?
- Do you sometimes experience resentments, jealousy, hatred, shame, self-condemnation, pride, anxieties or other negative emotions?
- Do you feel frustrated at times or feel there are some things you are still missing?
- Do you notice a lack of interest or meaning in your life at times?
- Do you feel blocked in realizing some important goal or dream?
- Have you lost touch with your passion and joy or your idealism?
- Is your life motivated by fears and defensive reactions — security, possessions, power, etc.?
- Are you less than totally happy and fulfilled?
- Are many of your relationships not loving ones?
- Do you sometimes feel victimized by people or circumstances or blame others a lot?
- Do you look to other people to tell you what is right or true?
- Are you little involved in your community?
If you have said yes to some of these questions — congratulations, you’re honest. Since as adults we are responsible for creating our experience, negativity of any sort means we have core beliefs, assumptions and issues to become conscious of, clarify and resolve. This is what this Section is about.
To the extent that we overlook this naturally unpleasant and painful side of life, we shall thus continue to be affected by it no matter how much attention we place on our positive and happy interests in life. Therefore, this Section is definitely recommended for nearly everyone.
- Essential awareness for growth
- Daily practice of working on oneself
- Overview of some general principles
- How negative core images are created
- Core negative qualities contrasted with soul qualities
- Typical negative beliefs contrasted with positive self beliefs
- The relation of common problems to false beliefs
- Steps to resolving negativity
- Finding negative core images: WORKSHEET
- Resolving negative core images and beliefs: WORKSHEET
- Working on blocks: WORKSHEET
- Working on self-image: WORKSHEET
- The compulsive personal agenda: WORKSHEET
- Working on “shoulds”: WORKSHEET
- Meditation on an issue: WORKSHEET