by Phil Evans –
As We Grow … How Do We Know?
Regardless of what type of learning curve we’re on: whether it is on a personal development level; a spiritual level; or our own business development level, it is often hard to actually see or feel our own growth! One of the most common observations from my clients, is that they have just done something in such a different way than they had ever done it before, and were so amazed once they’d had time to actually think about it, that they made contact with me to let me know and usually to ask a variety of questions regarding their own growth process, and progress.
Whatever it is that they did differently could fall into many categories. It could be: different reaction to some event; different reaction (or complete lack of reaction) to a particular person’s way of doing things; said ‘no’ to a situation where they would normally be dominated by someone, or something; had a complete change of heart regarding a personal issue in their lives, etc.
The important thing was this: their action was automatic; for the first time ever; without actually thinking about it! This highlights the fact that so many people are hard on themselves as they are learning new things, because they usually don’t have any true measure of their progress. In my case, I certainly freely give out massive amounts of encouragement, as I realise the benefits of doing so, but that doesn’t always hit the mark either. Why? This little piece of verse may explain that …
Flatter me, and I may not believe you.
Criticize me, and I may not like you.
Ignore me, and I may not forgive you.
Encourage me, and I will not forget you.
We’ve all known someone else who has recently had a new baby, or puppy, or kitten come into their lives. Sure we have. And each time we see their new acquisition over the next few months we are absolutely amazed at just how much they have grown! Happens all the time! Now reflect back to the times when we’ve actually had a new baby, puppy or kitten enter our lives. Each time one of our visitors mentions that they’ve grown so much since they saw them last, we actually say something like, “Oh, I haven’t noticed really, probably because I’m here every day!”
And that is the answer to becoming aware of our own growth: it is nearly always subtle – not seen or felt in big chunks!
Become more aware of your own progress, and pat yourself on the back for it, as you congratulate yourself for having done a great job! You deserve the self-appraisal, and the self respect that comes with it! I’ll leave you with this message — and it’s just for you…
“Today is my day. May I greet it with a sense of pure wonder and live it so fully in the present that the past and the future have no hold on me. Today is my day to realize an unshakeable, unstoppable belief in my limitless possibilities.”